You can't Amazon Prime your dreams...

Instant.

That’s what everyone is after in the new year.

New year. New me.

We want instant change.

But then a blizzard comes and dumps a foot of snow, our kids are out of school for one million days, and our goals get buried like our streets.

The flu hits the family, and a month evaporates like the Lysol you keep spraying in the air.

Then California starts to burn.

Right now, in this new year, I find myself thinking about surviving instead of striving toward some sexy goal.

I’m scrolling through GoFundMe pages or watching videos of horses saving each other from the fires instead of lifting weights.

It’s been a sad start to 2025.

I hear people say, “My new year will start February 1st.”

I understand this feeling. But while I believe in magic, I do not believe there is a magical day that wipes the slate clean.

It doesn’t matter if it’s January 1st, February 1st, or June 1st.

One day will not create instant change.

I do believe we’re all smart and know this on an intellectual level, but I also know this expectation and marketing is hard to delete from your brain.

We live in this Amazon Prime world, where we think everything should arrive at our door in a matter of hours. Our desires and wants are instantly met.

But let’s remember: we can’t Amazon Prime our dreams, a new government, or rain in California.

Besides, most instant things are garbage anyway.

• Instant coffee. (Barf.)

• Instant success. (Might seem good, but if your skills don’t match the demand, you’ll lose it all as quickly as you got it.)

• Instant money. (There’s a reason people who win the lottery go broke.)

• Instant noodles.

(I suppose the last one may be debatable, but you get the point.)

If we want to change, we don’t need a special day, a new year, or a resolution.

We just need time, discipline, and heart.

Rome wasn’t built in a day.

California won’t be rebuilt in a day either.

Your dreams of being an author or a business owner won’t happen overnight.

They need a long runway to take off.

And then they need you to approach your dreams, your goals, or the things you want to deeply change as if you’re potty training a toddler.

You can’t give up the first time your daughter doesn’t make it to the toilet.

You can’t throw in the towel when she poops her pants.

It would be a bit strange if she were still wearing diapers at 16, you know?

Approach your goal like success is your only option.

Approach your goal as if it’s essential.

And when you fall short—because you will…

When you stop lifting three times a week, don’t write for a week, or can’t solve all of humanity’s issues in Q1—that doesn’t mean you failed.

It just means it’s time to start again.

And for fuck’s sake, don’t wait until another day… or another year.

An easier year?

Those aren’t coming.

So stop WAITING.

Let’s make our own magic.

Every single day. 

For ourselves, for the ones we love, and for the people who need magic the most.

❤️ XOXO,

Kayti

P.S. Here are some GoFundMe accounts from folks in the California fires, in case you’re looking for places to help. (Bravo 👏👏 Mallory Fletchall | Reserve Home.)